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Effective Communication Notes

Principle-Centered Communication

Key Principles

1. I am in charge of every relationship in my life

   • Recognize patterns in relationships
   • Identify missing elements preventing progress
   • Take responsibility for difficult relationships

2. There is only one relationship

3. The only thing missing is what I'm not giving

Verbal Patterns for Implementation

The Hamburger Technique

• When you...
• I feel...
• Because...

Navigational Phrases

• Back up...
• Turn around...
• Different path...
• Slow down... Stop...
• Proceed with caution...

The Apology

• Use "I apologize" instead of "I'm sorry"
• State the cause and effect: "That I..."
• Explain: "Because I..."

Relationship Assessment

• Evaluate personal relationships
• Assess professional relationships
• Examine relationship with oneself

Goals and Outcomes

• Establish power and control in relationships
• Direct relationships towards desired outcomes
• Infuse missing elements to move relationships forward

Remember: It's all about ME - take responsibility for your role in communication and relationships